How do YOU react to tantrums, meltdowns or misbehaviour?

When your child throws a tantrum, has a meltdown or misbehaves, how do you react?

I get so many questions from parents about where to draw the line. When to ignore their child, when to go to them, whether to put them in a time out or in the naughty corner.

The thing is, when we see our child as the opposition, we instantly come from the mindset of "battle". And the reality is, your child is NOT the enemy. You guys are on the same side and have the same desires - to get along, feel happy and connected.

So if your child has a major (or minor) wobble, try to put yourself in their shoes. Imagine what they are going through, put on the lens through which they are seeing their world in that current moment and validate validate validate.

Your child needs to feel that you "get" them. That you see them (without them misbehaving to get your attention). That you hear them (without them screaming for you). That you love them (without conditions attached).

This is not about being "permissive" or letting them "get away" with whatever behaviour they want. It's about connecting first, before you correct. It's about connecting rather than shaming, blaming, criticisting or punishing. You will know from your own childhood, those techniques may get instant results, but they also have lasting implications - often into adulthood.

It's not easy. For sure... we all have so many thoughts, fears and other feelings that make it really hard to come along side our child rather than against them in the heat of the moment.

If you struggle with this, I invite you to reach out to me to book a discovery call (https://bit.ly/MPT-Discovery) so we can get you clarity on what's getting in your way from being the parent you want to be - the parent your child needs you to be - and your next steps forward.

Parenting skills are not a birthright. Like any skillset, they can be learned, expanded up on and improved.

Is it time to upskill your parenting?

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